Finding Solutions to Your Problem
Frustrated – Struggling – Stressed – Unhappy – Bored in a relationship, with yourself, as a parent, in your career. Feeling stuck? Is the situation not getting better despite your best efforts and wondering if anything will help.
Have you talked with friends, read books, analyzed the situation, expended a lot of energy “trying”, toughed it out, distract yourself, and still haven’t gotten what you want.
Some things are difficult to do alone.
- Being able to talk openly without judgment or being told what you should do
- Gaining a better understanding of the dynamics surrounding the issues
- Understanding how you got to this place
- Understanding your feelings around the situation and what you need
- Understanding how others might perceive the situation and their needs (which may be different from yours)
- Expanding your perspective on the situation
- Exploring options and actions you might take
- Addressing obstacles that keep you from getting what you want
- Providing you tools
- Establishing new behaviors and a more helpful thought process
Counseling is not about changing who you are, it’s about understanding who you are, what you want and making informed choices. One of the most important aspects of working with a counselor is to know that they understand you, your world and what you want. If they don’t, counseling will be disconnected and unproductive.
Yes, we do talk about feelings, because how you feel is important. You want to feel better about yourself, your actions, life and others. Love, joy, happiness, fulfillment, satisfaction, peace, they are all feelings, ones that we desire. If we are aware of them (also the negative ones; sorrow, anger, frustration, hate…), they can help guide your choices and actions. Sucking it up by ignoring or denying feelings is just not a good long-term strategy. Knowing your feelings is a strength and will help you understand what you want and don’t want. Also, you can use them to assess and make choices as situations and life unfolds.
Is Counseling Easy?
Is what you’re going through easy? Counseling is much more constructive, with a higher chance of positive change than doing more of what’s not working. To often the focus is on pain reduction rather than dealing with the cause.
Is it Worth the Effort?
Yes! If you want change, invest in it and work toward it, it will happen.
Let’s have a conversation to see how counseling can help, at the very least it will give you a few good ideas. I look forward to hearing from you.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (Lic # 52487)
Downtown Los Angeles office:
660 S Figueroa St #1030, Los Angeles, CA 90017